All of you guys who have been on the dumping end of a relationship, read on. And all of you who have dumped your boyfriends, damn you!Stop bawling after two hours. Because, honestly, the only good it will do to you is a bad sinus and a dry throat. Neither of which has the capability to ‘make it all go away’. So, you can scream and tear your eyes out for the first hour. Then, realise that it was never your fault, for, if it were, you won’t be crying in the first place. This way, you don’t have to go down the “what did I do wrong” road. That is the first step: it was never your fault. Just in case you started blaming it on yourself: goodbye, sanity. Snap out of it ASAP or else turn into a manic depressive. There is a good chance of you calling him and asking “what happened between us, baby?”Ugh. I hope none of you guys do that.Okay, the next step: rest your body and think safe thoughts, like your hobbies. Listen to music. Not the depressive kind, you have no reason to go depressive on that ass****. Do whatever you have to do to doze off. This part is important. It is crucial that you sleep. Nothing helps you more than your mattress. After you have woken up, call everyone and tell them the news if you haven’t. Warning: this may trigger new tears. But it won’t last because your friends will take care of that. This is the part where you learn who your friends are. They will know to feed you chocolate and pastries. All of this might give you the feeling that you are turning fifteen again, but it’s either your ego or getting over your jerk of an ex. After you take the load of your shoulders and have consumed an ungodly amount of chocolate, the next phase begins.This is the best part ever, because all of you sit around and say what a catch you are and what a fool he is to let you go. Believe me when I say this, you need the talk. The first days after the break up are the worst. Even around other people you feel lonely, and the mind wanders to really nasty places all surrounding the general area of you being lonely for the rest of your life. You know that no such thing will happen, but your brain refuses to see it during those days. Also, you lose faith in falling in love. This is a hazardous thought, but mostly it is harmless, for after the initial days, you get over it all. But the days leading up to it are brutal as hell. Whenever you are out and you see a cute guy, there is a flashing stab of hurt, a reminder of what happened. This too, shall pass. But, some things take longer to get used to. Like the restaurant you went on your date, or the sight of your wardrobe and you remember which of the jeans he’d complemented on. Even if you pull off a complete wardrobe makeover, and you change your place of stay, how do you figure you can stop looking at his facebook profile? You can’t. And the sight of your relationship status does not help either. Comments like “what happened?” does not help. And some jerk goes on to like your status and you nearly lose it. The only way out of this one is to refrain from going online for at least 3 days until you are sure you can deal with it. It will be hard, but it will help.The worst will be over in a week. You will be able to check out guys without a problem, get back on your feet a little bit wiser about who you give your heart to. Getting hurt in the process of breaking up is completely inevitable. The best you can do, if you decide to dump someone, is to lessen the hurt as much as possible and be considerate to stay out of his way for at least a month. After you have gotten over your ex, my dear buddy, you think back on the time and smile. Never to lose faith in love is what we should always keep in mind. You will feel like you can never trust a person again, sure. And it is completely natural to feel hurt when you see your friends who are in relationships or when you check out guys. As countless movies have used this line, it will come off cheesy, but, true all the same. Don’t be scared to fall in love again. Even after all that drama over breaking up, didn’t you enjoy the times when things were good? When there was always a text waiting on your phone? Those long night calls? Those amazing dates? You did. Falling in love is a good feeling, right? So all you have to do is to get over him and you will see hordes of guys waiting just for you to spare a glance at them. Go out and enjoy.
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Jul 7 2012, 4:19 AM EDT by
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Hi lovely people, i am a woman working with an American NGO and conducting a research into gay/ lesbian/ bi/ transgender/ intersex/ queer rights in Ghana and how it can be improved. I am appalled by the state of LGBTIQ rights in Ghana and Africa and I think that it's time that people are educated so they stop discriminating against others because of their sexual orientation. I have these questions and I would be so grateful if you all took the time to answer them and posted your answers here. the same discussion is going on @ Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women blog (http://adventuresfrom.com/2012/06/27/guest-contributor-ekuba-gaylesbian-in-ghana.html) so you can also go there, view the live discussion which is going on and post your views. The blog is very popular and has been featured on BBC. you can also email me at ekubabentil@gmail.com if you'd prefer to do so. Please take out a minute to answer these questions and help promote the cause of lgbtiq rights in Ghana. I dream of a day when people in Ghana and Africa won't have to hide their sexual orientation or face any discrimination bcos of it. lots of light and love
QUESTIONS: Which country do you live in? what is your nationality? When did you know you’re gay/ lesbian/ b/t/i/q? Are you sexually active? Are condoms/ genital dams readily accessible to you? If you get a genital infection like yeast, VD, etc. can you easily access healthcare? is your sexual orientation known to all (including family)? Have you ever faced discrimination of any sort due to your lgbtiq status (includes physical/ verbal assault)? Are you under pressure to date/ marry the opposite sex? Would you like to marry your gay/ lesbian lover? Are you a Christian, Muslim, traditionalist? How do you reconcile your sexual orientation with your faith? Share your experiences!
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