| Tips for those foreign visitors who love Ghanaian boys & men.|
Many Gay tourists choose Ghana as the place to meet nice black boys.
| How to find your Ghanaian partner for life............. |
Most Gay tourists coming to Ghana (here called Obroni = white man) surf the net before they come to find a nice black boy or man to meet them and make the holiday more fun. Watch out, it can become a nightmare if you're not careful!!!
There are a few things you should know before embarking on a search for hot sex and fun or maybe even a nice ebony partner for mariage.
Dating sites are the most frequently used ways to meet a (potential) lover or gay guide in a foreign country. At sites like Outpersonals or Gaydar you will find that Ghana is the country in Africa with the most registered hopefuls. No other country in Africa has so many boys and men looking for a partner on Outpersonals with picture (often naked) than Ghana. Does this mean Ghana is the Gay paradise in Africa? No...! It may mean that there are plenty young men desperate enough to seek greener pastures elsewhere, whilst developed enough to have access to the internet and a digital camera.
Many of the men and boys you see on these sites are not even gay or bisexuall. Some just pretend to be gay and will have sex for the money. Others are just "on-line gay", that is, they will tell you hot sexy stories after which they will ask for your financial support (need a phone to call you, mother sick, brother died etc.). Once you arrive they will vanish in thin air, the name and address they give are fake. Often the pictures are fake too. They copied it somewhere from the net.
But that is not even the worst form: The next category are the ones who will meet you and maybe even have sex with you, which will then be interrupted by a "policeman" knocking on your hotel room door. Blackmail is for some a quicker way to get the cash they're after. Sometimes the policeman is a fraud but sometimes even the police is actually involved. Corrupt policemen are just part of the extortion plot. If you dont cough up the money, you will land in prison. And the embarrasment of the story in the newspapers.
After all, gay sex is considered illegal in Ghana under the "unnatural carnal knowledge" phrase (see the page on Gay rights are human rights).
Especially watch out for Christian Village (Achimota): this has realy become a no-go zone. Very dangerous. Also see the fakers2go website on this (also see links below).
Of course there are also legitimate Gay boys who sincerely look for a partner and who really do like white (older) men. Miracles happen. The grimm economic outlooks for some boys and men who do not have the opportunities that education or family relations give them, will entice more handsome young men to look for a partner from abroad. In itself that does not necessarily imply a bad perspective. An old Thai saying is that "equal relationships do not exist; there is always a big person and a small person in any relationship". There are differences in age, wealth, power, nationality, sexe, looks, brains etc. In a good relation these things level out. A beautiful young black Ghanaian boy, may be poor and have no job opportunities, but an older white men who comes to look for a boy in a poor country is usually also not the "prime beef on the market".
After all it was just about 50 years ago that most marriages in the West were also mostly forged on economic arguments; farmers doughters married farmers sons because of land property issues. Empoverished gentry married nouveau riche money moguls, for reasons of money vs. status. Middle class girls married men with a steady job for economic security or upward social mobility.
If people realize and accept eachothers plusses and minuses, a mutually beneficial relationship can develop, which may last long and satisfy both parties needs. The trick is to find the right man, and they are out there....... Even on sites like outpersonals.
At internet cafes in Christian Village Achimota, Sunyani or Berekum you will find many boys surfing the net to find a gay partner. Does that mean that half the population in these places is gay? No, many boys see their friends getting sponsor money from abbroad. They see its an easier way to get money than to find a job on a jobmarket that is not ready to accept them. Yes, in such a setting it is also easier for real gay men and boys to have a relationship. The community grudgingly tollerates their sponsor relations as it does bring money into the community and many profit from a brother or nephew with a sponsor from abroad. Some of the lucky ones even get a ticket out of there for mariage in Europe or America. Who can blame them....?
How to play it safe...
Dont jump in bed with the first georgeous boy you met on the net. Try first to get to know their surrounding, their family and friends. Oldfashioned victorian morals and a chapperone to protect your virginity would be a smart start. Observe the Ghanaian laws. Get the contact details of a lawyer and if you meet some powerful VIPs on your trip get their contacts too, so you can call in the cavallery in case someone tries to frame you.
| Links: || |
tips on dating scams: Some stories about experiences with dating scams on Afriboyz
A usefull blog with a blacklist of known scammers
with picture you will find here: squidoo.com/Online-gay-dating-scams-in-Ghana
but at the moment the most upto-date version of the site is at fakers2go
; on this subject also see this blog on Queerty
or this one on Fast Company
US Embassy Accra on romance scams
And a different view on the same: proposing a whitelist
to complement the blacklistQueerty
about Ghana as gay toursit destinationReport corruption
and police harassment
Airport hassle Accra: blog